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two months

Happy two-month birthday, my boy!

It's actually been kind of a rough month for both of us - first I got a stomach flu, then you got a nasty cold, and since then you've been fussy and sniffly and growing like mad.

You've nearly doubled your weight since birth - 15 pounds 7 at the pediatrician today! I leave you for a half an hour, and I swear you're heavier when I pick you up again.

I can tell there are great things happening in your brain - connections being made, others being pruned, processes migrating from the instinct-ruled brain stem to the intelligence-ruled cerebral cortex. I'm pretty sure your nursing behaviors are going through that transition of late - rather than relying on the rooting reflex, you try different things, you fight the nipple and get frustrated, but then you get even more frustrated if I try to help. Even at two months old, you want to do it yourself!

You can support your own weight on your feet, with a look of furious determination on your little face - though balance is obviously a long way off! Likewise sitting - I've actually gotten you precariously balanced in the Boppy for a second or two before you fall over. These little tastes of mobility, though, have got you desperately wanting more. You want to move, to run, to GO!

Surprisingly, you've been showing signs of separation anxiety, which isn't "supposed" to happen until object permanence sets in around 6-8 months. If I'm out of the room too long, your father can calm you just by bringing you out to see me. I tried actually leaving you with him for a whole half hour last week while I ran out for groceries - but you were inconsolable the entire time, and it wasn't for lack of milk.

Today you've still got a bit of a cold, it seems - your eyes are runny with yellow gook, and you're wheezing a bit. But the doctor says your lungs and ears are "perfect", and you took your first round of vaccinations like a trooper! Just 10 seconds of crying and then you were all smiles again.

Speaking of smiles, you've moved from the semi-random smiles of last month to clearly conscious displays of happiness. In the morning you're all grins and happy gurgles (how did we produce a child who's a morning person?). When I change your diaper and tickle your belly, when I bend over you to take you out of your carseat, I'm rewarded with that radiant, toothless grin, and no matter how exhausted and bone-weary I am, that smile makes everything okay.

Love you.


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Nov. 4th, 2006 07:04 am (UTC)
8 months for object permanence is too old, that's outdated data. That's the Piaget rates. Piaget was focused on the order of when things are learned, not so much on the times. He did study the times, but the times he got were for when a child can express their knowledge, not for when they have it.

Newer studies testing what a child finds interesting (how long they look at something) shows that much younger babies find it surprising for an object that was covered to not be there when the blocking thing is missing or an object that was not there to appear, compared to it being the same as when it was covered. They just can't express it yet by actually doing anything much about it other than looking.

Much like studies that show that if you show a baby a ball then hide it under a box and let the baby pull up the box. Then hide it under the couch and they'll pull up the box. We used to think they didn't know where the ball was, but now we think they do... they may pull up the box while looking at the couch. The problem seems more likely to be that they can't coordinate everything they need to do yet and inhibit the motion they associated with the ball last time.

However, babies don't usually express what we call separation anxiety that young and may or may not experience anything like that (as they do seem capable of making it clear whether they are happy, scared, upset, etc.). So, it's still interesting that he is expressing such a strong attachment for you so young. But I don't think it's likely to be related to an understanding of object permanence.

Maybe he finds something uniquely about you soothing. Maybe he likes the way you smell or the feel of the clothes you wear or somesuch.

Anyhow, it sounds like things are going well. :) Although both of you getting sick must have been tiring. ... 2 months, time sure flies.
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