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I guess I had to get at least one

Amazingly, throughout this pregnancy I've not had much of anything in the way of the unwanted belly pats that I was warned would be ubiquitous. Everyone has asked first, and most of those were people I would have welcomed anyway.

Until this morning, when the waitress in the diner where we were having breakfast reached out without warning and patted my belly.

When she left, Andrei keeled over laughing. I turned to him and said "What? Was it the look on my face that said 'I'd eat her, but it's too much trouble'?"



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Aug. 25th, 2006 06:17 pm (UTC)
This came to mind...
Aug. 25th, 2006 06:30 pm (UTC)
I found that people weren't inclined to touch my belly. EVERYONE wanted to touch the baby. Especially old people. They seem to think babies are dogs and go and pat them at will. I can't tell you how many times I've almost smacked strangers because they've touched my kid without permission. :-P
Aug. 25th, 2006 08:06 pm (UTC)
Personally, I think it's rude to touch a person's belly without permission, a person's child (except in the case of reacting to emergencies), or a person's pet. Touching someone's dog without permission is both rude and dangerous.

I wonder if there is a market for pregnancy clothes that comes with spikes sticking out.

On a side note, people sometimes touch me without pernission too, as a reaction to my cane. Apparently having medical problems that make me require more careful handling inspires people to grab me without asking, usually in harmful ways. Sometimes I don't have that much faith in humanity. But then I grew up in a place that was very big on personal space and not touching strangers.
Aug. 26th, 2006 12:25 am (UTC)
Responding to your side note, I've had the similar experience. I think that the people who have touched me without invitation were just trying to help; they don't realize that help unasked for can sometimes be harmful, or at least not helpful.
Aug. 26th, 2006 12:29 am (UTC)
Oh yes, in my case the people are definitely trying to help. None of them have helped. One has hurt. Most slow me down (grabbing the arm holding my cane just means I can't walk; it does not help in any way). Unless they perceive an active emergency (and I think the one case where I was hurt, she may have thought I was going to fall, even though I was just unsteady in getting up, but she could have let go after I was standing), people should ask first. And in the case of a pregnant woman, there is no reason not to ask if it's okay first. I dunno, it just doesn't seem that hard to ask first.
Aug. 25th, 2006 06:35 pm (UTC)
According to jonah777, people tried to pat j's mom's belly all the friggin time when she was pregnant. Strangers in the mall even. Of course, they had to deal with jonah777 at that point. He pretty much made a habit of being aware of people approaching to do this and stepping in between j's mom and the fondlers, with the broody intimidating "don't fuck with me" look on his face. (Which is does *quite* well.)
Aug. 25th, 2006 07:11 pm (UTC)
Everyone wants to rub Buddha's belly for good luck.
Aug. 26th, 2006 04:43 pm (UTC)
I'm glad I won't have to restrain my fist of death, seeing as how I don't plan to get pregnant, ever.

The world can't handle that many broken wrists for inappropriate touching ;)
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