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Good grief

So, as any reasonable geek in my situation would do, I've been combing the net for early pregnancy information over the last few days.

What I find horrifying - though I suppose I shouldn't find it surprising - is the sheer amount of Stuff that people are trying to convince me to buy now now NOW. Never mind that I'm not exactly bursting out of my clothes yet, let alone needing to furnish a nursery! Looking ahead and being prepared is all well and good, but these people are trying to get me to start buying baby blankets and stuffed animals as soon as I get that second line on the pee stick. (No, seriously! Never mind that it's about the size of a pea and doesn't even have a heartbeat yet!)

And, of course, it's all masked in the language of "pamper yourself", "you deserve it", "of course you want this, it's okay to indulge". All the modern advertising language that I despise, but have learned to tune out for most things. But as I enter into a new arena of products, the slimy brainwashing hard sell hits me like a mack truck to the forebrain.

Since when, exactly, does pampering myself involve spending money I don't have to spare on stuff I don't yet need?

To whom it may concern - I'm not planning on buying anything for the baby until at least May. Of course I recognize that may change between now and then, but for now at least, leave me alone in my happy little anti-consumerist bubble? Please?


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Dec. 27th, 2005 08:56 pm (UTC)
Cheers! And good for you for not *ahem* buying into all that ;)
Dec. 27th, 2005 09:00 pm (UTC)
But surely you need a maternity spork. What kind of a mother-to-be doesn't have a maternity spork on hand? What if you get a sudden craving for something that only a spork can lift?
Dec. 27th, 2005 09:17 pm (UTC)
My only Comment
Is to ignore the "now now nows..." and go with your gut, however as time permits you may want to look into the "standard necessities."

I can perfectly understand you not wanting to buy into the "you need it... pamper yourself etc..."

Believe me I stayed out of every single maternity store for that very reason...

Dec. 27th, 2005 09:18 pm (UTC)
A good little bit of advice: Hit the clearance sales at the baby stores like Carters and Oshkosh B'gosh. You can get off-season coloured onesies for DIRTCHEAP but they'll work just fine for the summer and winter. Just buy a bit big or about where your baby should be that time next year.
Dec. 27th, 2005 10:38 pm (UTC)
But if you don't buy stuff ASAP, you may find out that your family has countless perfectly fine used baby clothes, blankets, etc. that they can give you. I remember my sister discovered with her first that she really didn't need to buy baby clothes at all (we're a big family and no one else had a kid at the time she did). What on Earth will happen then? The whole consumerist society could collapse if people realized they don't need to constantly buy stuff!
Dec. 27th, 2005 10:53 pm (UTC)
If you register for things that you'll need for the baby, you may not have to buy anything at all. I'd love to buy your baby a gift and a registry makes it easier to get the things you might actually want.
Dec. 27th, 2005 11:09 pm (UTC)
yugg! annoying how the machine works.

If there is any one thing that I WOULD suggest putting on your baby shower wish-list, it would be a BABYBJÖRN. My sister has the original navy blue yuppy edition (oldest kid is 7) and absolutely swore by hers, though indeed -- you have PLENTY of time to acquire one of those, and who knows what baby products will be out 6 months from now when it really is shower time. In the meantime, ignore the retail onslaught and enjoy not having to pee 25 times a day :-)

oh right, and a funny picture I found when I was looking for cat papooses last year -- http://www.goodner.us/jam/?p=46 (my kitty is a serious lap cuddler, but I have things to do, dang it!)
Dec. 28th, 2005 02:28 am (UTC)
Personally, I preferred this: http://www.babyholder.com/. I used to tote my little boy around everywhere!
Dec. 28th, 2005 05:04 pm (UTC)
There's also the Maya Wrap, which several of my friends swear by: http://www.mayawrap.com/

Jan. 3rd, 2006 06:03 pm (UTC)
I have a Bjorn and a sling you can have.
(Katy preferred Bjorn & Bobbie liked the sling...every baby's different)
Dec. 28th, 2005 12:02 am (UTC)
They're evil bastards and they're cashing in on the fears, confusion, and worries of first-time mothers: If you don't go out and buy our stuff this very instant, then you're a bad mother. Hell, if you were a really good mother, you'd have had your nursery completely outfitted months before you conceived.

They're all going to the bad place.
Dec. 28th, 2005 12:33 am (UTC)
Hi! I saw this thread on my friendsfriends list, and I just had to comment. I was appalled by all the commercialism when I was pregnant, too--after all, didn't humans do this for several hundred thousand years without all the heavy equipment? Buying things before the baby is even out of the first trimester seems like tempting fate to me; in fact, Jewish custom doesn't allow baby showers at all for that very reason. So if anybody gives you any grief about not having the nursery ready, tell 'em you're Jewish. ;)

I solicited hand-me-downs from friends and family and made a wish list for the few things I couldn't get that way. If you are breastfeeding and letting the baby share the family bed you can actually get away with having very, very little, especially for the first year or so. Good luck! Trust your instincts and don't let anybody tell you what to do--you're a Thelemite, after all, so that should be easy. ;)

Dec. 28th, 2005 12:56 am (UTC)
You should definitely NOT buy anything yet. Like the others said, wait until you find out what kind of hand-me-downs and gifts you will be getting from family and friends. Registering is a good idea, particularly for big things like bed, stroller, high chair, etc.
Dec. 28th, 2005 03:30 pm (UTC)
Hi! Here by way of queenofhalves and first off, congratulations. :) I'd agree, absolutely no reason to buy things yet if you don't feel like it!

I'd also recommend a subsection of messageboards I'm currently on -- IndieMOMs. ((kvetch.indiebride.com). Lots of smart women with no particular intention of doing things the way the stores tell them to. :)
Dec. 29th, 2005 04:35 am (UTC)
Awesome! Thanks!

And welcome :)
Dec. 28th, 2005 05:08 pm (UTC)
I would suggest taking the time to investigate what you will need and determine if there are multiple-use items that would suffice. For example, our friends have this foldup playpen thing that has a crib insert to use when baby is small, a changing table top, and a hanging organizer for diapers and such. If you don't want to buy or obtain a crib or changing table, that could be quite a nice solution that is also terribly portable.

I was also quite impressed at the baby carrier they have that snaps into a base in the car to be a carseat. ONE BUTTON is all you need to pop that sucker loose, yet it's a stable and safe as can be. Kind of neat, actually.

Just throw those nesting instincts into learning about what is available, and you'll find all kinds of cool solutions.
Jan. 1st, 2006 11:20 pm (UTC)
Yup, definitely don't buy stuff yet. Especially since people will probably be throwing stuff at you. I've also heard from other pregnant women and from their husbands that sometime during the last trimester a strong nesting instinct takes over...
of course, I don't have experience yet, so feel free to ignore...
Jan. 3rd, 2006 06:06 pm (UTC)
Like I said in that email, grab yourself a copy of that book. It'll help you see through the hype (some of it can be twistedly convincing), and to get a good deal on what you decide you actually need. (though I'd start in my basement, as there's nowhere cheaper than free...)
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