Heather Keith Freeman (jnanacandra) wrote,
Heather Keith Freeman

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revelation in a flat minor

Why does it seem that the common reaction to any relationship problem is to view it as threatening the very existence of the relationship? Why does it seem so hard to just say "ok, we've got a problem - let's figure out a solution" instead of "we've got a problem - maybe we should break up"?

I know this has been an issue in several of my relationships, and I see it everywhere in popular culture (movies, tv, books, etc.). It seems to link in with confrontation avoidance - like it's easier to just break up than to actually deal with the problem, let alone have any confidence that you will actually deal with it successfully.

Does this ring a bell with anyone else or is it just me?

Addendum: this should not be construed as analysis, criticism, or judgement of anyone's particular relationship situation, past or present.

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